German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer addresses this issue in a wedding sermon he wrote for his sister from a Nazi jail cell.He says that God joins the relationship between a man and a woman at the point of marriage.Before that, the couple has to take the initiative.Rather than directing the course of the relationship, God wants the couple to grow and learn how to make a commitment.
But the Bible does not promise that God will provide a loving relationship for you while you sit around and do nothing.
Whom you married wasn't even up to you most of the time.
Falling in love before you got married or engaged is a twentieth–century concept. In college, I had an older professor from Japan whose marriage had been arranged.
Nowhere, however, does it say that God picked out a spunky brunette whom he's waiting to spring on you at the right moment. When it comes to God, I'm pretty careful about saying what he does or doesn't do.
But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.