It does feel like a death, as they say - and most days I feel more dead than alive. He had been cheating on me with a woman half our age- a year older than his oldest daughter.Divorce Recovery Programs and Divorce support Groups can offer the learning and understanding of the emotional 'process' we follow after a relationship breakdown AND the opportunity to relate to other people in our situation (recovering fro separation or divorce). We separated and once she started pressuring him for a commitment he realized "Oh I already have a wife and children! Came back to me seeking to reconcile but all I received from him we're hollow words with no action. As painful as this is (and knowing I too contributed to the breakdown of our marriage) no one deserves to live a life filled with dishonesty, infidelity and lies. He cannot show true emotion and I only learned this through living and being with him for 7 years- he won't let anyone in to his real feelings and emotions.I found that keeping a journal really helped me get through the process. I was married for 7 years to a broken angel, I tried to fix her and show her what real love and devotion was about when first of all I didn't understand my roles as a husband and a father. I can see where I contributed to the demise of my marriage but I will never take responsibility for my ex's infidelities.Having a good support system in tact is extremely crucial as well. you scumbags will have a world all to your selves .. I also didn't realize that one person cannot fix another; we can only show them love and support, or not, while the other goes through life dealing with their brokenness in healthy ways or destructive ways. they won't be there when your in the depths of hades... He CHOSE to do that and there are consequences for that now.The children are with me she sees them every other weekend. Maybe there is a difference between the one that is left and the one that left. ..is limited by specific shortcomings or liabilities and benefitted by specific strengths.
*(I'd like to qualify this statement by saying you're never completely "done" grieving if you had a sincere love and attachment to your spouse. Count on others to tell you what you need (don't be in your own power) 4. I highly recommend that you seek out a local therapist who specializes in divorce or feel free to contact me (415) 257-0830 for guidance on how to find local support. In the 5 years I was married 4.5 were horrible, filled with arguments.After a series of sexual flings, I was ready to start thinking about finding someone again.This time, after being with the same person for over ten years, I have zero interest in rebounding, no interest in 'dating' and my libido is gone to almost nothing. He went back to the same woman, got her pregnant and did not tell me. In the midst of divorce he started a new relationship with woman 17 years younger than him.By done, I mean recovered to the point where you are no longer weighted down by thoughts and feelings about your spouse or your marriage and the pain of the split is a distant memory.) While no one can tell you exactly when this will be, I can tell you there are things you can do to make the process harder, and there are things you can do to ease the process. Stick your head in the sand and hope it will go away 5. It was my idea to get a divorce because I was tired of her blaming me for everything.I've created a chart so you can see the difference by comparing actions side by side. Pretend you're fine or try to hold it all together 6. Get as much information as you can about the divorce process 4. I was her third husband and she honestly believed she didn't make one mistake in 3 marriages.